As a Chri
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I Like to be in Charge
I like things to go my way and to work out the way I’ve planned in life. If I can be in charge, then everything I worry about won’t be a problem. Sounds legit, right?
A lot of my control freakiness (not sure if that’s a word) comes from my own personal worries and anxieties. I think as an adult, we use our worries to fuel our need to be in control. I am REALLY bad about that for most of my adult life!
What are some of those things I worry about? Well, let’s see… I worry about my family, kids, job, finances, health, my kids’ future jobs, my pets… And the list goes on and on and on.
Right now, I am in the process of finalizing my speech for our local Relay for Life this weekend. It’s the local event held every year to support the American Cancer Society. I’m super-pumped and honored that they asked me to speak, but any added tasks or pressure can also increase my worrying.
What is Worry?
Worrying is really a form of anxiety. The Google definition of anxiety is “a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.” Being nervous about an upcoming event, such as my speech, can cause some worry or anxiety. Feeling uneasy about an upcoming job review can also make you worried.
We all have times when we have a situation in life, and we have no idea how it will turn out. When this happens, the worry and anxiety can be ramped up to the max! Maybe it’s something you’ve prayed about, but you still have no answers. It could also be something a little bit in the future, like your child choosing the right future spouse, or making plans to retire before too many years.
Not knowing what the future will hold is so HARD! I’m awful at it, and that’s probably why I’m such a control freak.
How to Stop Worrying
It can be hard to let go of that control and stop worrying. Trust me, I know! But, since I’m already in the process of working on my selfishness and my jealousy, why not try to improve my worrying? Here are some methods I’ve used to begin taming my madness.
Spend Time With God
I know I’ve said it before, like a lot. But, I’ll say it again 100 times: the first way to improve your life is to spend time with God. Spending time consistently reading the Bible and in prayer will help to bring more calm and balance to your life. Plus, you’re talking to the One who knows it all and ALSO knows the future, so sharing your concerns with Him is probably a good place to start.
The Bible has so many excellent verses on this topic, but here are a few of my favorites!
Write Out Your Worries
This is another technique I mention often, but it can work as well for your worries as it does for your goals and dreams.
During your prayer time, you can write down your worries along with your blessings. By writing them out, you can be sure to pray about them more consistently. Plus, when you see some of your worries resolved over time, you can check them off your list. It’s almost like handing God your todo list!
You can write your prayers and worries in these awesome prayer journals from The Daily Grace Co.
Take a Break
We all need time to relax, rest, and recharge our batteries. Being in the midst of a life struggle can make you focus on everything else, and not on your own well-being. Taking a little break, even in small doses, can help your anxiety tremendously!
You could go for a jog or a brisk walk. Or spend time reading a book. Maybe watching a funny TV show or a heartwarming movie will help you relax.
Try taking a few deep calming breaths. Do your best to make your inhale match your exhale. Close your eyes and just be. Enjoying nature is also a great way to reset the batteries of your soul! Plant some flowers, visit a park, or just sit on your front porch and enjoy the peacefulness.
Decide What You Can Do
There is an old saying that states, “The only person you can control is yourself,” and it’s absolutely right! So many of us (myself included) try desperately to control everything and everyone around us. And ultimately we will fail at it.
There’s no way we can really control the people and events around us. But, we CAN control our actions. The way we react to a situation could impact it for better or worse. Since this is the only thing you have control over, you need to make it count!
So, take some time and look at whatever it is that’s causing you to lie awake at night. Ask yourself, is there something you can do to improve the situation? Is there someone you can talk to that could help? Do you need to apologize to someone for your previous behavior? Can you be proactive to head off problems in the future? If there is even one small thing you can do to make your anxieties any less stressful, then go ahead and do it!
What are some tricks you use to calm your heart and stop worrying? I’d love to learn what works for you, so feel free to drop a comment or shoot me an email.